HAVING CRUSTY & WARM FEELINGS

CRUSTY & WARM FEELINGS

When you hear the word "baguette,” what do you think of? I know that I instantly think about a warm piece of bread that is crusty on the outside, soft, and warm on the inside. YUM!

Feelings can be sort of like this and when we are dealing with conflict I think, it is important to get familiar with your personal baguette of feelings! :-)

So when you get mad what comes out? Is it anger, resentment, hate, fear, frustration, mistrust, passivity, blame, or what about jealousy?  When we are angry at someone what are we really feeling on the inside that makes us lash out with the crusty feelings? Things like love, disappointment, pain, fear, regret, sadness, rejection, insecurity, or hopelessness are some things that come to mind.

If we take a moment to think about a time when we allowed our crusty feelings to take over and lead us through a conflict that ended with hurt feelings... go back in your mind and think about how you were really feeling. Were you disappointed that someone hurt you?  And instead of stating that you were disappointed, you lashed out and yelled at him or her about how he or she is "always" doing something to you!

Anyway - I know I have had my share of crusty arguments but I think going forward I will attempt to deal with my conflicts better by getting to know myself better and getting in touch with my warm center and then letting the warm and soft feelings come out when I am trying to resolve or prevent a conflict!

Now what will you think of when you hear the word "baguette"?

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10 SIGNS YOU ARE NOT MENTALLY PREPARED FOR THE WINTER ON THE EAST COAST

1. Random people keep bringing you your gloves because you don't remember their existence.

2. You keep yelling, "What is on my freakin' head?!!" (That would be a winter hat)

3. You stop everything you are doing and purchase a new coat immediately.

5. You ask the store clerk for the, "warmest coat in stock" (even if its in the back and for future sale!)

6. When you get the warmest coat ... you scream and do the birthday dance because it has two sets of pockets and a hood you lose your peripheral vision in... when you have it up.

7. You hug the guy selling gloves for $2.00 (with no fingers so I can still text)

8. You pay $4.00 for the $2.00 gloves

9. You don't need a bag for your coat because you are going to put on coat NOW

10. You go to the kids section and purchase the little convenient attachments for your gloves to hook to your coat! :-)

Today I Am... FREEEEZING!

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FACEBOOK IS NOT A REPLACEMENT

I love Facebook like so many others; I use it to connect with friends in my life, stay connected with long-distance family and stretch my culinary mind with a little game called, Cafe World.  I have been a Facebook member since its inception and since the start of 2010 Facebook has become the platform, I check first.  Before email, voice-mail, or snail mail but a recent conversation with a good friend has me concerned with how we, yes even myself, are choosing to use Facebook and other social networking platforms.

I called my friend at work because I had not heard from her and this is sort of the last resort place to find her.  After I found out that she was okay, she proceeded to ask me how I was doing and then added, "From your updates on Facebook, things seem to be going fine."  I of course, said things were great... well because they are going great, for the most part.  After we ended the phone call her statement about my status updates stuck with me and has thus I am writing this blog post.  Here is what I have to say to readers:

Please do not use Facebook as a replacement "How are you?" because it is not the same.  Should I have put on Facebook that I was facing an eviction from my apartment because I had not, at one point, found work that pays enough to maintain my $1100 apartment? Or should I write that this is the first time that I have lived by myself and that I barely walk into my bedroom because it is empty and reminds me that I just started over... no, of course not; I wouldn't dare. Why... because that is my personal business and it is a temporary struggle that many people face. Moreover, I have learned to focus on the good stuff... that is where the status updates come from, because there is so much GREAT stuff.

I am not telling you all of this so that you can feel sorry for or me and check on "me".  It is not just about me, it is about your friends, family, strangers who randomly friended or followed you because they saw something that intrigued them... CHECK ON THEM! If you have not noticed an update from someone... call them! If you have seen an update and things don't seem normal...go visit them! If you know a person who bottles up the bad times... send them a hand-written note to say that you were thinking of them!

I am not saying to take each status update an analyze them.  I am saying ask yourself, “Am I being a good friend?”  If you are reading this blog then I am sure you have the common sense to use this blog and apply it to your life, where and if needed.

Today I Am... #justsaying Facebook is not a replacement for checking up on your loved ones!  We all have problems but connecting with others can some times shed light or give hope!

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AT STARBUCKS

Since my recent move back to The Big City I have been frequenting Starbucks probably more often than I should. I just can't get enough of the package that Starbucks offers, especially now that they are playing Josh Groban's new holiday CD.


On my most recent trips, I have been noticing small changes that Starbucks is making to make the process easier and more enjoyable for customers however; there is one change that I cannot seem to get out of my head. I am usually quick about stating my order to the barista and keeping it movin' but now I find myself pausing after I order my drink to see if this certain change is consistent. In the short seconds that I pause the cashier looks up, on command, and says, "Would you like something to eat with that?" The first time I heard the question I think I said, "No" just because the question sounded so…plain. Something to "eat" reminds of the classic fry question or of “paper or plastic”. You don't "eat" at Starbucks... you snack or better yet enjoy a beautiful, one-of-a-kind, Starbucks pastry. That may be too long to say or strange… so until Starbucks decides to change their messaging—I will keep enjoying my Venti Iced Coffee with Hazelnut with room for milk and “something to eat”!

Today I am…at Starbucks!

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